The Soundboard – Deviations

I am, sadly, known for screwing up conversations with strangers by my rather literal way of speaking.

It appears as though I’m regressing because I weirded out The Wife during our discussion this week on the Prop 8 decision.

I have two, seemingly opposite, opinions on the subject of gay marriage:

#1. I don’t care because the government has no right to be involved in living arrangement agreements between private individuals.

And because that is a fantasy that will never happen, I need to keep a more realistic one for general distribution.

#2. Marriage is not a right, and even if it was there is no portion of said non-right that I have because of my breeder status that a gay individual has not. Therefore, unless some sort of civil union/marriage laws are passed by either the voters or their representatives in state government, gay marriage should not be allowed. No Executive or Judicial fiats allowed. This is not “I have a dream” territory.

After getting her to understand my two opinions and the reasons as to why I need them both, I got down to both the nitty and the gritty which, for a few moments, made my life shitty.

I listed the reason behind the ugliness of fiats. I then listed out a half-dozen or so other groups that governments deny “marriage licenses” to.

But since she was taught debate by the public school system and the University of Montana, which instructs that at any time, if someone uses a word which has a pejorative option, that you should immediately hop on the “I’m Offended” wagon and giddyup.

I listed gay relationships among incest and bestiality as a “deviant” relationships the government denies licenses to. She immediately processed it to mean I find gay relationships sinister and I had to remind her that there is a non-judgemental definition of the word (aka: deviating from “the norm”) and that that was the definition I was using.

Yes, I could have chosen a better word. Yes, I need to remember that even after 13 plus years of knowing me she still doesn’t understand the way I use language when I don’t have to write it out.

Still, I think someone needs to desensitize.

This might do it.

Yes, this is why I don’t do internet radio and/or video blogging. I can cause a shitstorm in under 10 seconds flat.